
Growing up in my neighborhood, when I was a kid, fathers could always be seen in the evening or on the weekends, running up and down the street teaching their children how to ride a bike. However, in my house, my mother was the teacher of choice. My father traveled a lot, and wasn’t home much during the week. And even though I was the apple of my daddy’s eye…he had a tendency to yell if I didn’t catch on to things on the first few tries. So, my mother had the brilliant idea to practice during the week while he was out of town. This way, when he returned home from his business trip and would begin “to teach” me how to ride a bike….I of course, would look like a bike prodigy. Luckily for us, the neighbors never spilled the beans that my mom and I had been out in the front yard practicing every night before his return.
Growing up in Forest Hills, White Rock Lake was practically in my backyard. My mother was always leading the family on biking excursions that would wind through the shady streets of Forest Hills and almost always end up at the lake. I remember one time, just my mother and I went out after dinner (we BOTH had playing cards attached to our spokes to give us the lovely motorcycle sound). My mom decided to take a short cut home and cut through an alley. It just so happened, that a pack of boys on their bikes were coming down the hill around the corner from the other side of the alley and overshot into our path. I had to swerve to miss them, and my spiffy turquoise Huffy spider bike (with banana seat) and I ran into a tree. The handle bars hit me in the eye, giving me a lovely shiner. I was too embarrassed to go to school the next day with my black eye, but my mom made me go, and told me to tell everyone that I had been in a fight in the alley…and won. She told me that the kids at school would respect me for it. I reluctantly went along with the plan. When I returned home from school that day, I complained that the “fight story” didn’t work. And I didn’t notice any difference in the way the kids treated me. She told me that it didn’t matter how it seemed to me because, “the seed had been planted”.
The lady that taught me how to ride a bike loved the outdoors. She would often go for bike rides in the neighborhood after she got us kids off to school. I can remember watching her on numerous occasions from my classroom window as she would ride by my elementary school on her bike. It made me feel proud when the kids would excitedly exclaim, “There goes Lori’s mom!” As my brother and I got older, and my mom trusted us to go around the lake on our own, she would organize rides for the kids in the neighborhood. We would all meet at my house, and then ride around the lake. My mom always magically appeared somewhere around the lake either grilling hot dogs for all my friends at a park, or showing up with a station wagon filled with snacks. And then she would pack up and vanish just as magically as she had appeared. My mother was always taking care of us without us even knowing it.

In the past few years, our roles changed. As dementia and old age crept into my mom’s life, I began to take care of her….which cut down on my riding time considerably. Even though her mind wasn’t the same, she still had an avid interest in my biking abilities. She began to worry and fret over me when I would go out on my Saturday PBA rides. She would always call me during the most inopportune time (usually when I was on Renner) asking the same questions, “Are you riding safely?” and “Are you wearing your helmet?” My closest Tweener friends would always chuckle when my cell phone would ring, because they knew who was on the other end of that call. In fact, they often recited our conversation, before I was even able to answer the phone.
This past summer, when I rode my very first century at the HHH, my mother called me at least seven times during my ride. Always asking me the same questions because she didn’t remember that she had called me 30 minutes before that, and before that, and before that. Each time the phone would ring; I would groan and roll my eyes. With each duplicated question that I was asked, the surlier my answers would become. I explained that if I didn’t have to pull over and answer the phone so much, I probably would be able to cross the finish line much sooner. Each phone call, my mother would always ask me the same thing, “Are you finished yet?” and “Are you drinking enough water?” Unruffled by my surly answers, she would always end each conversation with, “I’m proud of you.”
My mother passed away a little over a month ago on March 25, 2011. In a matter of weeks, she suffered from two strokes, and finally succumbing to pneumonia. A week later, I was out on a much needed bike ride, when my cell phone rang. My heart actually leapt, when it rang. In some odd way, I secretly hoped that it might be her voice on the other end…. That was when I realized how much I missed the lady that taught me how to ride a bike.
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